All things need time to settle. All new things. I guess? Not all things come naturally........
Expectations can create victims. Emotional victims. I've learnt that in my life I have high expectations to the people closest to me, it is not always that my expectations are met, and that is sometimes fair enough - and sometimes not. There are some good rules to follow:
1: Consider your expectations, do they match reality?
2: Voice your expectations and thoughts on how things should go down between you and the people around you.
3: Voice your dissapointments as well, when your expectations are not met, but make sure you think through how you want the outcome to be before you start your complaining.
I had a big realisation this morning. I act like a victim when let down. When someone dissapoint me I have a tendency to back off and close off. It is not right. I can sometimes act like a spoilt brat. I realise that my expectations don't always match the reality of things. And I get dissapointed. And that is fair enough, it is all about how I handle it altogether. I need a confidant, and I need time but I reckon I'm pretty good at handling stuff :) And having that inner perspective as well as connecting to those emotions coming up in different situations, always questioning why I react the way I do to things....It is imperative in the reality I live in.
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