How To Deal With Life s Insecurities...

...I read self help books.

I don t believe in anything other than help of the self through effort of self.

Internal and cognitive challenges in a mind working 100% properly and healthily, ultimately will only heal through self help.

That does not mean that we dont need guidance to find solutions. There are many many tools for guidance: Friends, family, partners, psychologists, coaches and SELF HELP BOOKS :D Even the man on the street, or a random conversation through a colleague can provoke new thoughts about a challenge one is struggling with, even a solution. The highest barrier for not finding a solution? Victim mentality.

Victim mentality means that you are a victim of whatever happens to you. It is never your fault - and you never take charge, or responsibility for the things that get you down, or that you feel is working against you. Feeling helpless and not able to affect something that is keeping you sad or frustrated is sometimes simpler than doing the inner work or taking action to make things better, I feel. To be honest I have filtered out the people that have this type of way of looking at things. I never do it straight away - it is when i realise that whatever i do to help this person, things will never ever get better before this person decides to do the actions necessary to create change.....That is the moment i decide i cannot have this person in my life.

Do you think i am in the wrong for having made that decision?

Solution seekers are the heroes of society, and operative action - and changemakers are my mentors, and the people i choose to admire.

Tips for good reads? Paulo Coelho - "The alchemist" is a great place to start. Louise Hay is good too. She sometimes - to me - is experienced as a bit too much in a sense that her life view is very spiritual - but her thoughts on life and her miracle stories always inspire me. Hay House (Louise Hays publishing business) has a lot of good books too.

Some thoughts for now :)

xoxo.